Tuesday, April 17, 2007
Loss, love and compassion
Thank you for your prayers, light, angels and healing thoughts. So many parents, friends and families will benefit from them, I know. It's hard to find words to express the profound sadness. VT flags are on every other house around here. I've never noticed them as much as I did on my walk last evening. Driving, everyone's faces have a somber look as you know they are listening to the same horrifying news in their cars.
One of Nick's friends who graduated last year and was on a full scholarship is among the dead. He was a very kind boy with a sweet sense of humor.
I am deeply touched by the demeanor of the students I've seen interviewed. Every single one has been concerned only for everyone else. They are focusing on loving each other and focusing on their own gratitude for having survived. I pray that as the shock wears off, they can continue to feel this way. Although, in the process of healing, it is perfectly natural for anger to show itself as well, and I don't think anyone would blame them for that.
A lot of people have expressed a feeling of helplessness. I guess this is why people take tons of food to people's houses when they have a family member die. There is always more food than they could ever actually eat, but it is a way of helping. It's a tangible way of saying, "I care and I want to help." I think the sense of helplessness here is that it's just too big for a casserole. Out of this spring the vigils and prayer services, another visible act of caring. I do think it matters. I think that in some way it must comfort the families. If not now, then later when they can absorb it.
I believe that the love all of you are sending matters. I have an image in my mind of a blanket being gently laid over the valley and it's made up of the very powerful compassion and love of all of you and so many others who are focusing their hearts on the friends, families and students.
I hope it will continue to the law enforcement. The gentleman fielding questions yesterday looked exhausted and on the verge of tears. I pray that people will remember that he is human and treat him kindly. I imagine his shoes are rather hard to walk in at the moment.
The wind is wild here again tonight. It seems to add to the somber feeling in the air. A plane is landing at Roanoke Airport right now. It seems unusual at 3:30 in the morning. I can't help wondering if it has something to do with Tech. Then again, I am not always up this time of night to witness planes landing. Perhaps it isn't that unusual.
I know that in the days ahead, people will be trying to make sense of it all. I don't think there is any sense to be made of it. There is no answer to "why?" There is nothing that anyone will ever figure out that will make it make sense or take away the sting. I pray the focus will remain one of love for those dealing with the losses rather than turning to one of anger and blame.
I, personally, feel comforted as I watch the footage (which I turn off periodically to just sort of take a break. I hope others do that. It's easy to become overwhelmed by the repeated descriptions and images)...as I watch the footage, knowing that so many of you are seeing it as well and sending your love to this little area of our world. I know that your thoughts and your love are already helping with the healing and I thank you on behalf of all those who are benefiting from your compassionate souls.
I love you.