My younger son had to do summer school this year. In fact, I think he's had summer school every year of middle school because he starts out terrible and finishes with a bang...but not bang enough to pull up his gpa. I've tried everything from ignoring it to standing over him for hours while he did homework, to emailing teachers to keep up with assignments, to thinking he should just be held back, to pulling. my. newly. gray. hair. out!
Yesterday he got in trouble at summer school. His father got him a cell phone, which I immediately deemed just one more way for him to get in trouble and one more thing to make it harder to control who he talks to, etc. Yesterday the teacher asked for all the kids with cell phones (kids with cell phones...that drives me nuts...why do kids need cell phones?) to hand them up to her for the remainder of class. My son didn't. He put it on low in case any "important" calls came, he said, like me or his dad. Yeah, right! So his phone beeped because he got a text message and the teacher read it and it was some horrible thing the kid said and now my son has been told not to return to summer school, which means he will repeat 8th grade (although Daddy is trying to get him out of it, which is half the trouble).
Mike is very smart. They tested him for special ed because he wasn't doing his work like he should and generally being an all around pain in the neck at school...turns out he's closer to "gifted" than "learning disabled." He has a very high IQ and great logic. (I wish he'd use it). He's more interested in socializing (like his mother was) and he doesn't have the self-discipline necessary to take care of things that come first, first. I know it's my fault. I have failed to discipline as I should. On the other hand, I am the only one who disciplines him at all.
Yes, I know that divorce has contributed. It's what keeps me awake at night. I do everything in my power not to get into a power struggle thing with his dad over discipline (as it was a huge problem during the marriage). It's causing a huge rift here at home as Tim tells me that I am NOT going to be the one who takes care of the fallout from this and that I must make my ex deal with the consequences. All I care about, of course, is my son. I don't care about whose fault is what or who should have to drive him here or there. I care about my son getting a brain in his head and losing some of his stubborness and doing what he's supposed to do.
A lot of back story for a fairly straightforward question. I have wanted to home school Michael for a long time now. I know he's smart enough. I think I need to get rid of as many distractions for him as possible. I also know that homework time with him in the evenings is part of the reason my hair is turning gray. It has been a real chore to keep him "on task." There has been some improvement. He even occasionally does homework without being reminded....on his own. A true breakthrough. He is actually well-behaved for me. He is respectful and sweet even. I don't know what happens to him when he goes to school, but I suspect it's a lot of masculine posturing and showing off. That's my theory anyway. So, what I am asking from those of you who actually homeschool and know how difficult it is and why...is this doable? He would be starting high school in the fall...he'll be 14 in September (another problem...he is the youngest middle schooler). Can I make this work? or is it too late? I don't want to take it on if it's a mistake.
I'm not sure his dad will allow it. He wouldn't back when I wanted to do it before middle school...with both boys. But perhaps he is at his wit's end and will let me try it at this point. Before I speak with him about it, I'd like to feel certain that it's even reasonable to consider it myself.
I'm open to suggestions. I just want the best for my son. Some sleep would be nice, too. yawn.