Ok, I'm feeling major guilt and am wondering if you would or if you would have done the same thing. My son has a good friend. Sweet boy (16) who lives across town. He spent the night on Tuesday night, planning to go to work with Mike who is doing some tree-cutting and hauling work. The boy went to work with Mike but got sick so they brought him back here. He spent the whole day here yesterday just hanging out, but you know, he was sick, so ok. He "cleaned" the boys' room by picking up the clothes that I had stacked by their dresser. (I was waiting for the boys to go through them and tell me what they no longer ever wear so I could get rid of them) He put those clean clothes in a garbage bag with a few dirty socks and, of course, today I have to re-wash all those clean clothes.
Last night they both went bowling with some friends and he spent the night here again. I was assuming he would work today. I got them up, fed them breakfast (plus fed another friend who stopped by to go to work with them) but it turned out the company owner could not use him today, just Mike and the other boy, so he's been here all day again, just hanging out on my sofa. He slept a couple of hours then read, just hanging out. He's very quiet. Very nice guy. But for some reason, this was just driving me batty. So I said something to Patrick, who then as nicely as possible, offered him a ride somewhere "now."
So Patrick is taking him home and I feel both relieved and guilty.
I want kids to feel at home here. Truly I do. I love it when my boys' friends hang out here, but when it's just one of their friends without them, for two days? Not so much.
How would you have handled it.
As he was leaving, I said, "See you later." He said, "I'll see you guys later. Thanks for all your hospitality." For a minute I thought he was being sarcastic.
I'm still not sure.